Now, first and foremost, how do you know a person cares for you? Well there are many ways of knowing. There are many interesting ways of being able to tell. If you have to leave the person and get somewhere by driving right before you leave they will tell you to call or text when you make it home so they know you are safe. People don’t just do that to everyone. They say that to the ones that they care about.
Next. They tell you things to not do. For example, they will tell you firsthand to never walk outside at night especially downtown. Even if you can take care of yourself they don’t want to risk it and they don’t want to think anything could happen to you.
If a guy, or someone of the opposite sex, looks at you they will notice and they will step up to let it be known that it’s just not cool.
Lectures will take place. They will tell you how you shouldn’t party with examples of people. They will give you tips on how to deal with things with examples. They will stay up and listen to what you have to say. They will cancel their plans to hang out with you and talk.
They like to know what is going on in your life. They ask questions and they don’t let things just slip on by. They genuinely want to know.
They hold you to another standard than everyone else. You are perfect to them and they expect no less. To them you can’t party, you can’t drink, you can’t swear, and the thought of you having trauma happens frustrates them.
They know when something is up when you’re silent.
You can sit in a room and be quiet and they’ll turn to look at you just to see what you are doing.
When they hug you it is not just one armed. They pull you in for a hug if you forget. They give you both arms. They send their warmth to you in that moment.
But when they really care; when they really have more than just simple emotions there will be this one extra thing. When you are in a room of their friends you will be able to notice that they treat you different. Their eyes center on you when they talk. Their speech lowers and takes on a tone of more seriousness and gentle kindness. It’s like they are dealing with a fragile piece of glass. They aren’t wasting a breath by talking to you. With everyone else they talk more dramatic to say the least. And you are the one they want others to meet.
They call when things get important. They don’t wait a while but rather they call right away when their thoughts are clear or when something comes up.
They want the best for you.
They check up on your family, they fill you in on things if you don’t know about them, and they consider themselves family too.
However, there will be moments that make you question whether they really care, or whether they just lost this sense of caring about you. You hit a low in life and you figure that that person will be there for you. They are there for everyone else and they have distinctly told you that they are there for you should anything happen. So when things do inevitably go down that tear you down and bring you to sadness, anger, frustration, and a sense of uselessness where are they? In your time of need are they by your side? Are they giving helping you to stand tall? Are they providing you a harbor to feel sheltered in your vulnerable state? Are they hugging you when you need the comfort?
When the phone goes silent and you don’t see them around does that mean they don’t care anymore? Seems like only ten seconds before that they showed emotion.
So was it all just a false sense of reality?
You may feel that but someone i know said it best. If you know that they are an amazing person, If you know deep down that yes they do care, then you know they don't mean to hurt you even if it does sting. Things may be complicated, confusing, frustrating, and hard. Life could be having its twists and turns with them as well.
All you can do in any situation, whether it be in a state of complication or a state of love, always show as much care as you possibly can. You reacting to stupidity shows you care. You coming to them in their time of need shows you care. You worrying about them shows you care. And by saying their name like it’s wrapped in sweet kisses, like pillows of clouds in the heavens, like hot chocolate on a rainy day, and like it’s the only flower in a field of weeds shows just how much you care.
