This blog started with the promise of maybe helping find answers. Discover something within ourselves. The thought, "People would like to hope that they will know what to do with every situation that comes their way. True?? We would like to think so but the truth is life is more complicated than we know" has only lead us to the thought that yes life is more complicated than we know. And all we can do is let time take us through this roller coaster. So through the ups and downs we write to share where time takes us.

Monday, March 8, 2010

Be The Grown-Up

All my life it has been these words repeated to me. This phrase involves some 'doublethink' from 1984.

Caution: Every situation involves thought to determine how to be the grown-up. A.k.a. it's relative.

In an argument it's instinctive to want to come out on top. When I am right I know I am right and am not going to live it down. But with every argument that comes around I'm always being told to be the grown-up, ignore the situation at hand, don't instigate, don't steep to their level; to relent.

Am I not the youngest fighting against a sea of elders. Should not they be the ones taking on the role of maturity rather than me?

Now when it comes to not talking to someone I am told to be the bigger person...yet again. Don't act like them. Don't be immature and play games. Rather take the upper hand and try to resolve what there is, or try to move on without a chip on my shoulder.

Standards. Always standards. I know I matured in thought and understanding before others my age early on in life but am I allowed to have an immature, selfish, rash moment every once in a while? To hold out on talking to someone who is acting irrational? To continue to argue my point when I am right?

Sometimes it gets tiring taking the high road in situation such as these. Sometimes it gets hard having to bite my tongue and not say everything that the electrical impulses in my brain are firing in my head. But I do.

My mouth and my mind go into a state of filtration. Like a dam I keep back from inundating the atmosphere around me with the vibrations of my complaints, my truths, harsh realities, emotions, confessions, and vulnerability.

Though I don't want to admit or agree to the notion, in every situation or rough patch or argument someone needs to be the grown-up. Thus...me.

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